From: charlie
Date: 10/21/03
Time: 9:30:16 PM
Remote Name: 209.240.198.61
I see where the judge did put the case forward for Kobe but made remarks about the weakness of the case.
Also, you talked about the woman going up to Tyson's room after he had "behaved badly" in public.
I am a modern woman but not one of the NOW crowd by any stretch of the imagination.
I personally believe that women can be somewhat responsible for what happens in a case such as his and Kobe's if it turns out that way.
In the case of Kobe, if this woman does turn out to be a nutcase and basically a slut ( I call any woman who sleeps with 3 different guys in less than 3 days a slut--sorry, but that is the way it is--a guy would be the equalivant of that as well) it is fairly obvious to me that she would have been giving out "signals" to Kobe or any other guy if she went up to his room like that. Another girl could have stopped and gotten an autograph and been on her way. This girl is said to have been using her job as a "dating service" (i e sex service) with the clients of the resort.
The rape shield law is all fine and good but in the cases of the more "date" rapes (not the violent knocked in the head in the parking lot kind) --there can be a fine line there.
This "new" proposition that at ANY time during the sex act that the woman says no---is a bit much. Too much responsibility on the guy I think.
Too many women (I've known them) think that they can drink til they are flat out, make out to the point of sex and then say no--because it isn't their responsibility. No way, Jose'!
I am NOT one of these folks who say that hookers can't be raped. Just not true. But when women put themselves into certain situations and really push the envelope and say "it's not my fault' in any way--just doesn't cut it.
I do realize that in many cases this is a very fine line...but there is a line that the women can cross that lays some responsibility on themselves.
charlie