From: Jean
Date: January 07, 2006
Time: 07:51 PM
It is sometimes very hard to find the real motivation of people. But when you find it then you are well on the way to working with them in a way that either stop thats that are hring them or starting things that will help them. I used to have to do these reports and one of the parts of the report was what was motivating the people. This had noting to do with abuse. This almost drove me crazy because I keep getting the reports sent back that it was an invalid motivation. Finally after several years I meet someone at a siminar who told me the motivation. Something I would never have thought of, but made so much sense once I heard it. I realized that the man who keep sending them back figured that eventually I would find it and was pushing me into finding out. The motivation very often that one thinks they have for doing something is not the motivation at all. It is hiden from them and hiden from others. But the motivation is there especially if one repeats the action more than once. Actually what some people call pop psycology is some of the best around to deal with clients if they honestly want the help. I have used it and the proff was in the pudding so to speak. My clients made positive changes that lasted. One thing I never did was let them dwell in their pity etc. That never helps a person to make advances. Getting good and mad at me is a great first step.